For the child to learn. The problem of cognitive interest

Goals:

1. Identification of the characteristics of the relationship between the child and parents;
2. Development of basic rules of family education

Participants:Teacher and parents of 5th grade students.

Preparation:1-2 weeks before the meeting, a questionnaire “The child and his family” is conducted among students, in which students assess their position in the family.

Child questionnaire:

1. I'm supported in almost everything.
2. We have disagreements, even quarrels.
3. It's hard at home.
4. I have too high demands in my studies.
5. I have a lot of limitations.
6. At home, I consider what I would like to have in clothes with other needs.
7. They give me pocket money.
8. We have classmates at home, friends.
9. I wish I had more independence.
10. Parents are busy with themselves.

Response options:

1. almost always;
2. sometimes;
3. Almost never.

Registration, equipment, inventory.
On the board there is a mini questionnaire “Communication of children and parents in persons”.

1. Which person do you most often communicate with your child?
2. What person does your child talk to you most often?
3. What do you think your child’s face should look like when talking to you?

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On the tables are cans with questionnaires, blank sheets, pens.

Progress of the meeting

I. Information part.
Dear parents, let’s talk today about our children, about the role that family and school play in their upbringing, since the family and school are two social institutions, on the coordination of which the effectiveness of the process of raising a child depends.
To raise a full-fledged person, a cultural, moral, creative and socially mature person, it is necessary that teachers and parents act as allies, sharing their kindness, experience and knowledge with them.
The relationship between family and school is important not only in the first years of a child’s stay in school, when he has not yet acquired the necessary ability to control his feelings and behavior. They remain relevant at your age, because often it is at school that a child has a chance to express himself, to show his talents.
The school sets itself many tasks: educational, educational, and educational. School can help parents with many parenting issues, but it can never compete with the family. It is the family that is the most powerful tool in shaping the personality of a child.
Life and science have proved that all the troubles of children and then adults are explained by the mistakes of family education, the main of which is the lack of love and the inability to praise and support their children.
The most important thing for a child is to be loved as he is.
An outstanding teacher V.A. Suhamlinsky said: Where there is no wisdom in parenting, the love of mother and father for children disfigures them.” There are many varieties of this ugly love, the main ones being:

1. love of tenderness;
2. despotic love;
3. love of mercy.

Dear parents, before I reveal the meaning of each of these expressions, I want to draw your attention to the mini questionnaire offered on the board. During the meeting, give answers to age and individual characteristics, when he cares not only about him, but also about everyone, when he is respected and respected by others; and dysfunctional when he is a pamper of the family, and then often a despot, family; or who does not care about family problems.

II. Practical part.
Sometimes the contradictions between children and parents are pronounced, sometimes they are given greater importance. Now we will give you the opportunity to look at some situations that arise in the family, through the eyes of your children, and then compare your answers with their views and analyze the results of comparisons.
In front of you are the forms with questions of the questionnaire “Child and his family”. Your task is to try to put yourself in the place of your child and answer questions the way he would answer, that is, to look at the situation through his eyes.
(Parents respond to questionnaire questions. They are then given the answers of their children. After the meeting, the teacher collects the answers of the children and parents for further analysis. How often we face the same problem: we lecture children on how to behave, give them useful advice, warn them against mistakes, and in the end we get the opposite results. What's the reason? Maybe it’s because our actions don’t always match what we do. Maybe it’s because children learn to live. Let's try to find out what a child can learn when he finds himself in certain situations. Parents are encouraged to complete sentences.If:

1. The child is constantly criticized, he learns to hate.
2. The child lives in RAE / SDE, he learns to be aggressive.
3. The child grows up in reproaches, he learns ...
4. The child grows in tolerance, he learns to understand others.
5. The child is praised, he learns.
6. The child grows up in honesty, he learns to be fair.
7. The child grows up safe and learns to believe in people.
8. The child is supported, he learns (value himself).
9. The child is ridiculed, he learns.(to be closed);
10. The child lives in the understanding of friendliness, he learns.(finding love in this world)

At the end of the work, a collective discussion of answers is held. Parents are trying to defend their point of view.

III. The final part.
So what can we say in conclusion? We all have choices. But it depends on you to a greater extent how your child will grow up, how he will enter adulthood. School and teachers will help you find a way out in a difficult situation. It is important to remember that the biggest influence on the formation of the child’s personality is the real actions and behavior of parents, not their words and morals.
I would like to end with a poem that confirms this once again: Rather than listening to a sermon, I'd rather have a look. Better to guide me than to show me the way. Eyes are smarter than hearing, understand everything without difficulty. Words are sometimes confusing, an example is never. The best preacher is the one who believes in life. Good to see in action, this is the best school. And if you show me everything, I'll learn a lesson. I understand hand movements better than quick words flow. It must be possible to believe. Both thoughts and words. But I'd rather see what you're doing. I may misunderstand your correct advice.But I'll understand how you live,Truth or not.

IV. Decision of the parent meetingIt is based on the ideas and proposals expressed by parents.